I, too am married until the courts tell me I'm not. I'm not clinging to anything but rather respecting the vows I took. I made a mistake once of not respecting them and at that time recommitted to "from this day forward."
I like the way you put this and agree with those who are sharing the same sentiment. My old marriage is dead and I have no desire to go back to it, but that doesn't mean I'm quitting on my W just because the forecast is grim. This is what led me to the decision to NOT take my ring off until the D is final. I wear it for what it says about me, even if I am not a member of a "real" marriage where the spouse reciprocates my commitment.
-tmd
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
