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[PatientMan]

I have also learned through this most recent "find" that as badly as I want to reconcile, I have some major trust issues that would have to be worked through for our R to be mended. I don't think that is unreasonable, but it is there.

I have also realized it for some time, but if W were to ask me to move back in (not something I think there is even a remote chance of at this point), I would be extremely hesitant to do so...a lot because of me and my trust issues and also a lot because I think it's best to take things slow and not confuse the children. They're hurting enough and don't need to have their hopes and lives jerked around any more than is already taking place.

If given the opportunity, I want to take things slow. The old marriage, though not final, is dead. Date again. Grow together again. Be sure of things. THEN move home.