Role model - W suggested James Dean maybe 5 years ago. Other suggestions?
Who do YOU suggest as a role model?
You said your W didn't like you talking to your parents. She doesn't like how you talk with them. She doesn't like it b/c you never stood up to tell off your father. Do you see manipulation on her part?
You tried to go shopping for some new shirts, and she grilled you and than TOLD you what to do and not do. Do you see this as controll?
You accidentally discover she's having a party at your home and has not said a word about it to you. You seemed to accept it without any realization of her lack of respect & honor to the man of the house, and said the party would be an opportunity to try talking to a few people.
It did not surprise me one bit when you revealed that you spend the time of the party back in the kitchen. Why are you not in the role of "host" instead of the dishwasher? What really got me was when you said that sometimes a few guests will walk back to the kitchen and then you had a chance to speak with them! There is nothing wrong in helping out in the kitchen, but not to the point that you're hidden away like an embarrassment.
Oh Luke! Can you not honestly see how wrong all of this is? Can you not see how you are filling the role of her puppet? It's worse b/c she degrades you. This is not what you need to do in order to strengthen your M!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
