Grizz I skimmed this post so forgive my feedback if doesn't align.
Grizz why are you still pursuiting your wife. Do not ask her to sit next to you. Do not initiate a kiss to her. If she wants to kiss you goodbye then do so. Do not buy her cards. stop the pursuit ok.
Grizz stop overanalyzing and projecting. if your W wants to leave you she will leave you no matter what you do. STOP doing things that you think will keep her in the marriage. Do things because they are right.
Saying she will leave me after she gets a job is wrong and you are not a fortune teller. I use to do this so I know. I use to say. W is going to leave me after Thx Giving, after xmas, after birthday, after easter, after after after after... STOP
When are you going to start focusing on yourself?? Do you see the entire focus is on her. Stop pursuiting. You can detach and not be cold. I know it is hard but do it.
What will you do to GAL going forward. I goto ACOA meetings. I play texas holdem, I goto the gym, i play the acoustic guitar. I still GAL and my life is slowly turning back to positive.
Don't waste a year of your life in victim mode like I did. Yes that is what you are doing. Focus on your kids. Focus on yourself. Start doing 180's that will make you a person only a fool would want to leave ("25"). Start living your life ("bond")
Take the advice and implement a plan. Do not just read the advice on here and let it go in one ear and out the other. Start doing things and stop worrying about what your W's reaction will be. I am not saying be an idiot here either. Only YOU know you're own sitch. I took the advice of many veterans. I also didn't do things they advised knowing my W and her personality.
