StillLookingUp, love that quote: "I've said this before and I'll say this again but if this whole thing hadn't happened, I wouldn't have been able to find myself and do all the thinking and GAL. So for that I really want to thank my H. Don't get me wrong. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do and I know some of my friends don't understand why I'm being patient. Well newsflash - they haven't been in our m. I decide our m is worth fighting for." Kinda where I am now.
Thank you, hotwheelsaust. Hang in there! Just yesterday, I was talking with a co-worker who also is a good friend and knows my situation. I told her my mom is flying from overseas for my best friend's baby shower I'll be hosting. I also told her my MIL is also coming. And my co-worker immediately said "Won't your mom say something to your MIL? about what your H is doing to you" ??? What is he doing to me? Nothing. She is a mom also so I get she's speaking from a mother's perspective and she's in a protective mode for me. Again, this kind of comment tells me she's so frustrated that I'm being nice to H. She's a long time friend at work and seen I have been by my H side when he was unemployed 3 years etc so I totally understand she feels for me... BUT I can't let her frustration confuse me.
Anyway I see absolutely nothing wrong with them both coming to the shower because I haven't said anything bad about my H to my mom or his mom. Interestingly my mom genuinely understands what H is going through and my MIL is supporting me all the way. MIL has been my greatest emotional support through this. She understands that I'm giving H time and space he needs and she doesn't at all pressure him.
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
