Life, One Day at a Time (22 months)

[SemperFi00]

Thank you SemperFi. How are your teens doing with this? My 12yo seems just fine taking whatever attention he gets from my WAH and not thinking too much about what's going on. My 15yo seems hurt, angry, and like he is trying very hard to appear like he doesn't care.

S14 I think feels stuck and tries to defend both us - just wants everything back like it used to be. Most heartbreaking thing for me was when we drove by the hotel I stayed at for a few months and he commented that he was glad that I was back at home - no 14 y/o should have had to experience that set of emotions IMHO.

S16 quiet and reserved and tries to avoid anything related to the situation. has made a couple of comments like "... M just seems angry and frustrated all the time." also sometimes says to her occasionally ".... calm down woman....". Inappropriate and it often gets a strong reaction from her which I think is what he wants. Sometimes he seems to be kidding and sometimes not. Even says same comment to me at times. Similar to your, I think that he is trying to appear like he doesn't care and no impact.

S8 seems oblivious for the most part. his world still mostly the same (tuck him in bed each night together, etc...). Diagnosed w/severe apraxia so consistent routines are incredibly important for him and he doesn't speak that much of very clearly. a little tougher to judge how he's doing but given his learning challenges (and the fact that he has already been displaced from 1 household) I am very concerned about this situation could impact him.

GAL is hard for kids also I guess! Why can the WAS not recognize and open their heart to working on things???? Oh yeah - forgot, the MLC fog I guess.

I can teach them to handle life's curveballs with grace, but I don't know how I'm going to teach them not to throw these curveballs themselves when they hit 40.

Great point! Teaching to handle with grace and focus on what they have the most control over is he best learning we can provide for now.

How not to throw the curveball is the $1M question right? I keep telling myself that as much as is stinks for the LBS and others, this has to also be gut-wrenching and guilt ridden for the WAS.

Maybe we'll still be around when kids reach 40 and can share this website and a gentle 2x4.

Seems like you have been doing a great job throughout your journey. Keep the faith and keep posting.