I don't know if this helps at all for you, but for me I've been thinking that my marriage broke as the only and most important thing, and all the details of that, my h might be cheating, he's doing things I don't respect or expect from him, the money's getting tight, he's so angry and unreasonable that I almost can't talk to him, etc, etc, etc, and he's probably looking up old girlfriends on FB for goodness sake I have been, we're all trying to do whatever we can to feel better and get happy again... all those are just details and they don't add anything extra to the one big issue that your marriage broke.

What are YOU going to do, that is within your control, about YOU? That's all you can do, and wishing things were different is a waste of time and energy.

Glad you're swimming, glad you stopped smoking. Hang in there, journal often, be good to yourself. I hope therapy is good for you. Take care,

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.