Yeah, it doesn't really seem like asking him will do anything for you. The biggest thing in your sitch, is that you are hurt. Telling him that won't do anything. He isn't going to say he is sorry, he isn't going to comfort you. BTW- #3...I spit my coffee at my screen. HILARIOUS!

The only reason I just recently asked my H if he was still seeing OW when I saw a bday card from her, is that my H told me he wasn't going to date during our S. See, my H still tells me he loves me, that I'm hot, still tries to sleep with me (seriously, he tried to put the moves on me last night. I think he done lost his mind!!) So, for me, it was to clear it up, put it out there that I know and will be acting accordingly. I didn't tell him I was hurt, just give me the facts. Now, if I see more proof, no need to say a thing.

It hurts. I'd be more concerned about you if it didn't.

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D