It's good to be here

[Mileus]

Thank you both. I don't know that I'm feeling quite as strong as the post sounds, but I do feel better each day. Of course, things pop up that remind me and I still have trouble focusing on work. Physical stuff is easy and distracting, using my brain keeps getting me into trouble with my thoughts. I just keep using the Stop Signs.

I am working on not judging her. Intellectually it's easy. Emotionally, she hurt me and my children, so it takes time. I know she loves her children. It's the reason she came back when I first found out. She just wasn't ready to give him up. It is hard to remember that she's going through some turmoil also, especially when she seems so sure of everything. I know she isn't and I just need to keep telling myself that.

I will also try to work on not judging. Good luck to you on that as well.

PS. I'd be a little mad at the hurricane. At least for a few days, but that's a phase of grief you have to work through to get to acceptance.