I think it always hurts, even when you've truly moved on, you get the pangs of "Why wasn't I good enough"? Of course we know we were good enough and we know the parts we played in the failure of our relationships, but every once in a while it surfaces.
Ad, you are entitled to be loved and wanted and cherished. Never forget it. All spouses who walk think if only evil LBS had been better, this wouldn't have happened. Whether or not they finally take responsibility for their own actions is up to them, not us. And sometimes, I truly believe, that people cannot move forward if they stay together. I do not discount starting again with Spouse, but sometimes I think they have to know what they are leaving to know what they actually had.
And sometimes, we are done, by the time they realize that.
