They do deserve to be happy, but their spouses and their honor and self-respect deserve to follow the rules they signed up for, to BE in the marriage while you're in it, to make a good faith effort to FIX it when it breaks, and to at least wait until it's legally over before hooking up with someone else. That's what I think I would tell my boys, and that's what I intend to live.
I've certainly had more R talks with my sons than I think I would have without this event in our lives. Our talks have been along the lines of what you've written above.
And I think out sons see that we have made mistakes, hurt, grown, worked hard on ourselves and changed and that's how you get through life.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
