If you think you aren't a good DB'er, just re-read you initial posts, then your latest posts, and notice the strong, new YOU that has evolved....and that is the first goal of DB, imo, an evolved you. I am so happy to see the change in tone of your writing, so much stronger, on your feet, secure.
You have to do what you need to for you and the kids, if my W pushed for D the way yours has and such, I would probably be doing as you are. The good thing is that you made time, did the work, to get past the initial hurt and anguish, so now you are in a strong, clam, logical, non-vindictive state of mind to do the best for everyone. This will pay off down the road, and trust me, your kids have been, are, and will continue to watch what you do...but you know that already...
You're awesome, a great Dad, a good man.
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
