Sweetie, send it if you feel you want to.

I would make a couple of changes. Just my opinion.

Hey H

I know this process is really confusing and hard. It would help me greatly if we could use the lawyers to discuss any aspects of the divorce as it is difficult for me to talk about it with you.

I am happy to continue to communicate regarding co-parenting aspects as we have been.

Here's why. When you say something again about your children and you say that it hurts you, he thinks, there goes B again.

He knows it hurst you and he knows how you feel about the children. You've said several times, I'm sure. So no need to say it again, right?

So, now you've told him what you want. And so, you need to stick to it. Whenever he begins to talk to you, you need to tell him to go through the lawyers.

Do not be afraid to speak your mind. I agree that it is a means of intimidation. Dont allow it.

You can do this, B.