Bud, you are not the worst DBer ever. I'm not sure there is even such a thing.
Your W's choice to go through with this has nothing to do with you. Strange, but true.
I'm sure she hasn't thought about any consequences. I sometimes think MLCers can't look ahead to lunch time, let alone the future. The fog is just too thick.
During our last big talk, my H told me he "didn't think he had it in him" to work on rebuilding our M. He's trying to "work through issues" and "fight demons". It's taken him a long time to be able to express these thoughts, and they have been helpful to me in understanding where he's coming from.
I don't think your W doesn't want your M because she doesn't love you, it's more like she doesn't love herself. And if you don't love yourself, how can you truly, deeply love another?
Your friend sounds like a very wise man
I understand about the loneliness, it is very hard to deal with at times. Luckily, the kids keep me pretty busy so that I don't have much time to think about it. But in those quiet moments when I do, it's sad.
5 months? Try 14 and counting! Talk about a dry spell!!!
Try not to be hard on yourself, and even her. Anything can happen in the future. Keep those expectations down, and hope up. I know you can do it
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
