My s21 just went at it with h. S and I were speaking and h did his new jump in to the convo act, and we all seem to loosing our patients with his sneaking into our lives just enough to get back out. S told H to stfu and stay out of it, h said your not talking nice to mom ( it was me that was upset) s said I'm fine w/mom your the problem, to which h agreed.
H told S to let him do what he has to do, S said then to GTFO, h relplied I'm not doing anything though! S said he's the cause of our home not working out well, so he can bitch that things are going wrong. H agreed he's never gonna be happy, S told him to stop being mean to mom!
H here is not good for any of us even though at times he's as quiet as a church mouse. His presence as a stranger make us all uneasy, and when he tries to poke around sometimes we are resentful.
I can feel that things are going to change big around here, I just don't want to be the cause. If h makes a big change I want it to be his move not my push!
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
