But I am getting really tired of being the justification to his anger - I'd even take 75% ownership of our M problems, but it seems he wants me to take 100%. No what I mean?
All too well. My W says she's been unhappy for the entire 24 years we've been married. I know it's not true, but, she's convinced of that fact - or at least wants me to believe that. Those claims have decreased, somewhat, but, I do understand where you are at.
Originally Posted By: LMF
This past year he has very much gone into text rampages. He will typically only do this in text messages, would not say this stuff to your face. Sometimes it will be voer the most trivial topic and he maybe won't like the way I worder the question...and here he goes, how I still can't ask nicely, etc (see previous posts)
There comes a certain amount of bravery when one isn't face to face. Again, using my W as an example, she's said things to me via text that she would never say to my face. Maybe that's their way of getting anger out of the way so when you do meet in person, it takes the edge off. Didn't work that way for me as I was still pissed at the names she called me...
Originally Posted By: LMF
It was very out of character for him to threaten beating up someone tho. Have heard him make comments as far as if a man was doing something to a woman and those types of things, but he isn't a violent person. I think he likes to hide behind his phone sometimes.
Making idle threats from afar; that's normal for some people. I do find it ironic that he may be (probably is) seeing someone on the side, but, you're not allowed because your married to him. Selective M vow enforcement? It's a childish game, really, that he is playing. All under the guise of his happiness above all other things in life...
It sounds like you've come to a decision on your future - or are at least closer to one than before.
