B and Grr, often times the MLCer is quite able to compartmentalize parts of their lives.
They are trying to feel good about themselves. Looking everywhere they can. So, sometimes they become more successful.
BUT, I would not want to be them for all the money in the world. Because at the end of the day, they are broken.
It may look like they are having the time of their life. Reality is so much different then what you are thinking in your head.
I had an opportunity to speak with my xh several times regarding all this.
While he never said he was/is in a MLC, he has acknowledged that he felt like he was in a frenzy. Trying to find the next thing that was going to make him feel better. Despairing when it didnt. Going to the next thing and the next.
And while I thought he was with ow, many times, he was alone. Hating to be because it was tortune to be alone with himself, but, hurting too much to be with anyone.
I believe he is still deep in the tunnel. He knows something is wrong, still cant figure out how to get help. Not my problem.
Just wanted to tell you, life is not all rainbows for them.
It's best not to let your mind go to places of which you cannot know for sure.
And who cares what is happening or not happening for him? Not you, right? Because you are going to make your life great.
We only get this one, it is best to enjoy it the best way we can.
Let him blow in the wind right now and leave him to his path. And you create a new one for you.
