All of this recreation of our history, to him it's all real. And maybe part of it is - I've apologized - move on and quit bringing it up.
Boy, do I understand this sentiment. But to the WAS, it IS real - whether it's logical, true, false, a lie, fantasy or whatever. But, they appear to need something to cling onto to justify their anger.
Originally Posted By: LMF
I have been in contact with the other guy. Yes, I realize this doens't help my situation, but I'm really about over it all. H saw some on the phone records and again made contact with the other guy - threatening him about messing with his wife. Isn't it funny how he chooses when I am his wife and when I am not?!And in a strange turn of events other guy called my H, apologized, whatever.
Yes, it is VERY ironic how they act when the roles are reversed. Obviously he has something going on he feels he has to defend otherwise why would he go on a text rampage in the first place? Has he exhibited fits of anger in the past? And how did that affect you?
Just curious; I have read your sitch, and many others so I can't recall every detail... You can tell me it's none of my business if you like.
But I am getting really tired of being the justification to his anger - I'd even take 75% ownership of our M problems, but it seems he wants me to take 100%. No what I mean?
This past year he has very much gone into text rampages. He will typically only do this in text messages, would not say this stuff to your face. Sometimes it will be voer the most trivial topic and he maybe won't like the way I worder the question...and here he goes, how I still can't ask nicely, etc (see previous posts)
It was very out of character for him to threaten beating up someone tho. Have heard him make comments as far as if a man was doing something to a woman and those types of things, but he isn't a violent person. I think he likes to hide behind his phone sometimes.
