The View from the Blanket II

[bustingout]

2chiquitos - I have missed you too!!! How are you?

I think I get what you mean about carrying his guilt. I was thinking about it more from the point of view that when he does speak with the kids he knows what they have been doing and they can talk about that. I think that makes THEM feel better.

Of course I should not care how he takes it, if I am truly detached and doing it just for the children. It seems its one thing to be estranged from your spouse but too much to be estranged from the kids too. I mean does H NEED to be estranged from them as well ? I can rationally ( not always emotionally) understand that giving him space from me - of course the kids cannot and he should not expect that either. Unless he really wants an ugly R with his kids. Which I can't believe he would want in the long run. And really neither do I- no matter what the outcome of the R I have with him.

2chiq thank you for your post. You have given me a lot to think about!