OK, I found a interview from JD Souther who worte th elyrics with Don Henley. Here's the story:
"At that particular moment it was an easy song for both of us to work on, because we had both, within the last year or so, broken up with our fiancées. We'd both been in love and engaged at the same time and both his relationship with his girl and me with mine ended in the same few months. And it's pretty much what the song says, they had both taken up with somebody else. And that's not easy to hear, but at the time it made a good source material for that song, because it seemed to be really universal and it seemed the only way to really survive your first reaction to hearing news like that or having those kind of feelings is to remember that the first person to benefit from forgiveness is the one who does the forgiving. And, actually, that was Don's idea. I have to give him full credit for that forgiveness theme. The first time he sang that forgiveness chorus over and over to me, I didn't get it. Kind of went, 'Yeah, I guess.' And then it sort of sunk in that it was exactly the point of the song."
2 LBSes!
We got to see Don Henley to this live several years ago.
India.Airie has a great version.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Hi labug. Coincidence that you posted about this song. I posted on my thread yesterday how that just now every song seems to be about lost love etc. After reading your post, looked up the song and lyrics on YT. Brilliant lyrics. Just now, i'm listening (repeatedly!!) to 'Let her go' by passenger.... Probably the best lyrics I have heard in a long,long time ( Yes, I am a sucker for lyrics, I try to listen more to words than music!!)
Nice that H does something nice for you without being asked....
M:39, W:35 T:12, M:3 (4y 2013.02.18) D:9 S:5 2 Dogs W says she wants D : 2013.01.18
Thanks, Occy. I also get caught up in lyrics. I was going to work on Sat morning and heard a song on the radio that took me back and spent a few minutes crying in the parking lot. It was totally unexpected but there you have it. Our new perspective brings new understanding.
I'm happy to report that H is continuing his increased presence in S20's life.
I had a great convo with S23 and am continually amazed by the insight and understanding of this young man. I've always known he had an old soul.
I had disagreed with a decision he made about how he will be spending his summer (he's still in college and has 2 more semesters) With the help of my IC I was able to see that my disagreement was not about his choice but rather my fear and some of my own unmet needs from the past. It's interesting how that stuff can crop up when you least expect it but I knew in my gut that something was up. I need to pay more attention to my gut.
S and I were able to have a great discussion about it and now we know each other better than before.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
...the first person to benefit from forgiveness is the one who does the forgiving.
Love that quote ^^^ good for all of us to remember!
Regarding songs that we really only hear for the first time when we finally choose to listen. I had a similar incident about a year ago. I had just dropped off my son at paintball and had a 20 mile drive home down a lonely country road and Bonnie Raitt came on the radio. Boy did the tears flow that day! How old is that song, 20 years maybe? Heard it a thousand times. I always liked it. But that day, it finally resonated. I guess I was ready to listen.
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
Oh...I heard Bonnie's song on the radio just yesterday on my way to pick up the girls from preschool. I cried the whole time...
Yes, it's amazing how differently I perceive music and lyrics since this all started. I have always loved music and it's been one of the hardest things to reconnect with and enjoy since DB without getting down, so I see it as a huge sign of progress and healing when I find myself singing or enjoying a song.
((((LaBug)))))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
