But, does her flip flopping seem like it is happening way too much? She is either a tactical genius or so confused that she has no idea what to do. Have I ever said that I am confused?
Hi Grizz, I just read your thread. Your wife knows she is not happy in the marriage right now, but is trying not to hurt you. The best thing you can do is show her that you are OK! You don’t want her to stay out of guilt… that will never work for long.
The fact of the matter is any of our W’s can leave us at any time. We have to accept this. It doesn’t mean they will. There is always a bit of ambiguity in their mind. Years of marriage, plus kids, is a lot to just give up on.
You DON’T want to press her for an answer on the M, or take her temperature. Remove all pressure for an immediate decision. There is no reason to rush. The longer she stays in the house and you guys get along together, the better shot your marriage has. You know where she stands right now, and that this will take time to turn around. Be patient and give her space. Quietly be the H she wants.
You can do this!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
