It's good to be here

[Mileus]

OK. So last night she came over and was moving some of her stuff out. It wasn't so bad, we joked around a bit and I carried some stuff to the car. It was difficult seeing her eyes light up when she started packing her lingerie. I pretended not to notice and about 10 minutes later I went for a brief walk to cool down.

Then, I showed her the paperwork the lawyer wrote up for the custody agreement of our 16 year old. She FLIPPED. There was crying, yelling, etc. I actually stayed pretty calm and assured her that we wouldn't sign anything she wasn't comfortable with. The main areas she had trouble with was that she vacated the house and I was solely responsible for his care since then.

She also had trouble because it said she left and she wanted it to say it was a mutual agreement. I told her she didn't have to leave, if she wanted to move back in, I would sleep on the couch so she could be with the kids. I even offered to move in with my parents. Truth is, her guy lives an hour away and she doesn't want to live here.

She has given money for Feb., but in the last 3 weeks, she has spent maybe 1-2 hours with him. Even when she lived at home, she was depressed and I was usually the one dealing with the kids. The older 2 were listed as emancipated children living with me and she had trouble with that. "They are 19 and 20, they are old enough to be on their own." or something like that.

They aren't ready to leave yet, and I have no intention of forcing the issue. They have both dealt with depression since their grandmother's suicide and are just now starting to move forward. I think seeing what she has done written in a legal document really shook her.

I really tried to be calm, but she just kept pushing and saying she wanted the wording changed. I don't really care what it says, as long as I get custody. Then she started acting like it was my fault and kept calling me a martyr because I wanted custody of my stepson. Finally, I just couldn't take it and said.

Paraphrased "I am offering to sign a paper that says I will be legally responsible for your son for the rest of my life. He's autistic, he may never move out. When I finally start dating again, I'll have to meet someone who doesn't mind sharing me, because we're a packaged deal. I'll never grow old alone with someone, I'll always have someone with me. I'm not a martyr, I'm just a good dad. And I don't deserve this crap from you. I'm not the one who left."

So, I hope everyone else's day went well.