The View from the Blanket II

[bustingout]

Hi KG-

thank you for your post. you got me thinking....

I was thinking about your H's lack of response. Does he typically respond to all your texts? For example - my H many, many times simply does not reply to either my texts or phone messages, regardless of what the topic is. I believe this has happened to others here (I recall commenting on this issue in one of LaBug's older threads some time ago.) We were all wondering why WAS would do that and came up empty. In other words, IDK if this is a "typical" WAS behavior or not, but my point is that perhaps your H's lack of response doesn't really have anything to do with his feelings or interest in the kids and more about a behavior / habit he has developed in regards to his communication with you and perhaps others as well.

you know i think the WAS makes such an effort to detach from us that they do stop texting, responding etc...so that they don't give us that 'false hope'


He had stopped responding to my texts, you are correct. Of course when HE needs something he will freely text me and expect a reply.

Thats not the point. The point I am trying to make is that I agree. His lack of response is probably more with his learned behavior since BD rather than his interest in the kids. Now that I think about it, there have been several times in the past maybe 6 months where a text exchange is really just so rude. I am outside his parameters for normal social etiquette. He is not insulting, but not polite..he is nicer to the stranger that accidentally dials the wrong number...wow... I feel so special...lol

So KG you are right, it does not matter why he does or does not respond.

And I am very aware that this is week 4 of him being away and that despite his promises of Skype conversations with the kids this never happened, and despite his pledge to call daily at 530 pm, while it is regular...is not daily. Its still better than it was the last time he travelled, and the time before that and so on.

So i think I will continue with the texts about the kids while he is away. When he is in town I don't do it anyway. The texts we exchange while he is in town are more 'who is picking up which child and when' kind of texts.

I didn't realize that it was common for WAS to stop responding to texts. I guess its another one of their ways to block us out.