Wife privileges reinstated, back in my own bed!

[mamabird]

Ah, resentment. I'm definitely being tested on this. On the 2nd day of the ski trip, H wiped out and actually broke a rib. Not fun. That left me to ski with both of the boys, which was challenging but mostly great up until we hit a complete and utter breaking point.

We were trying to get on a 2 person lift. My older son was going alone. The operator didn't slow the lift down. S9 lost a ski. Operator got distracted. I was trying to get on with S6. S6 didn't quite make it (they need help at that age). S6 fell off, I was stuck on. S9 was one chair ahead of me with one ski. S6 rode up with a very nice lady. As we're riding up, S9 tells me he has to go to the bathroom. So once we're all settled, we head for the lodge so he can go but he doesn't make it and has an EPIC blowout. Luckily it was late in the day by this time, but it was a gigantic foul smelling mess that I had to deal with alone because of H's broken rib.

Basically, I've been doing 100% of everything for the past 3 days, including packing, driving, hauling luggage, unpacking, shopping, cooking, washing dishes, laundry... etc. Now granted H can't really do much because he's pretty laid up, and I don't expect him to do anything. But when I asked him to help with the boys - just direct them, manage them - so I could put away groceries and make dinner - he was snotty about it. His response to my request was "Right." As if I shouldn't be asking him to do ANYTHING. Finally I think he recognized that I've been doing a whole lot without complaint, but he's not very conciliatory or apologetic, and barely appreciative.

Now, he's fast asleep, snoring loudly... I am back in the den, voluntarily this time! I can't take the snoring!!!! It was starting to get better but now that he's injured I can't exactly demand that he sleep in here or roll over or whatever.

But back to my original comment - this is definitely testing my patience and resentment meter. Especially the hideous snoring. That especially gets under my skin because it's been a problem for 15 years that he refuses to address.

Breakdown, to address your comment about trust, there was never a trust issue on stuff like coming home on time or communication. At least I don't think there was. Normally I am as reliable as a German train. I do not flake, I do run late but always call when that happens. A lot of the trust stuff was there (on his side) before any EA. I remember one time, years before any of this, when I went out to dinner with my boss and her boss. It was getting kind of late, maybe 10:30 or so and H calls me and is furious that I didn't check in. He had never done anything like that before and I think it was because he felt threatened by the "big boss" who happened to be incredibly handsome and who I totally idolized.

Also, not to change the subject, but worth a mention, 3 tall, cute, young and probably drunk snowboarders attempted to hit on me in the hotel. Kind of hilarious, but I was flattered just the same.