Tallula I did the same before BD. I started this recently as H is mostly out of the country and only communicates with them by phone.

I don't want it to come across as pressure though and push him away even more from the kids.

I need to think about this awhile. My coach said I should (continue) in order to keep interactions warm and friendly as well. I feel that with him away 90 percent off the time - me not keeping him in the loop is a path towards bitterness all around.

Ugh.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home