I made an appt with DB coach today but it's not for 3 weeks. Any advice appreciated here - I've read some emails from last fall from H, the last correspondence we've had about our M. I'm seeing things in a different light since my discovery last week and I really feel I need to reach out to him. Not for his sake, not to win him back, but for me. He's taken on a great deal of guilt and blame for these last 8 months and it's truly not fair. I've been the example, I've been the honey to the bee, I've lived the change I want to see (to him) I've made a lot of personal discoveries and part of that is me stepping up to the plate and saying "hey, I accept my part. I know you tried at one time, and I'm sorry I didn't see it then. And I know I didn't try to the extent I should have. And I'm not a victim anymore and will not put any more guilt on you." Like a release for myself. I'm a BIG taking responsibility kind of woman, with my kids and life in general. So I feel this is holding me back from my personal growth if I DON'T do it! I have to release it and let it go. Even if that gives him permission to file for D. I don't know... I've had a pretty stressful week and I can't find my DR book, is there something I'm missing here?
Any advice appreciated here - I've read some emails from last fall from H, the last correspondence we've had about our M. I'm seeing things in a different light since my discovery last week and I really feel I need to reach out to him. Not for his sake, not to win him back, but for me. He's taken on a great deal of guilt and blame for these last 8 months and it's truly not fair. I've been the example, I've been the honey to the bee, I've lived the change I want to see (to him) I've made a lot of personal discoveries and part of that is me stepping up to the plate and saying "hey, I accept my part. I know you tried at one time, and I'm sorry I didn't see it then. And I know I didn't try to the extent I should have. And I'm not a victim anymore and will not put any more guilt on you." Like a release for myself. I'm a BIG taking responsibility kind of woman, with my kids and life in general. So I feel this is holding me back from my personal growth if I DON'T do it! I have to release it and let it go. Even if that gives him permission to file for D. I don't know... I've had a pretty stressful week and I can't find my DR book, is there something I'm missing here?