Living, Getting the Paperwork Started (20 months)

[adinva]

Signs my H was cheating and I didn't see the point in it because bottom line was he was divorcing ME, whether he was leaving me for someone or not seemed beside the point.

1. He refused to FB me
2. He refused to tell me where he works or who with or where he goes when he travels or who with. Top secret.
3. He began taking more care with his personal grooming (the kind people who don't see you naked don't see) when he was leaving for or just returned from a business trip or trip with friends.

In almost 25 years I've known him he has not once ever spent money on porno or personal entertainment. He has viewed it for free on his computer. He has not once ever spent money on a sex toy or lingerie. We went in a shop like that once to entertain the friends we were with in DC. He doesn't spend money like that. I can't imagine what you can spend $250 on in a store like that but I feel like a movie is not likely.

I think the fact that I wasn't going to reimburse him if he wasn't going to show me the charges he was asking to be reimbursed was incentive enough, and since we're done I'm sure he didn't see one charge as a big risk of anything. It was 40 pages of single spaced charges covering a whole year, so maybe he thought I wouldn't notice it.

It doesn't change much in a material way for me, but it hurt.

I don't like to think that the father of my kids has left us to live with his high school buddy, spending the equivalent of S15's lacrosse league that I have to scrounge to afford in a sleazy sex shop, ogling college age waitresses with S12, doing who-knows-what with who-knows-who. I feel like throwing up on him. I guess that's judgmental.