So, let me ask you, he is acting normal when he says, "Why are you freakin out,so we get a divorce and the kids will just have to deal?" Is that the way he would have felt before all this?
And of course he has to say that. I always said if my xh had to face all that he did it would bring him to his knees. They have to justify their actions, B. Because if it's not everybody else, then it must be them and they are not ready to handle that.
They can have long moments of normalcy. All part of trying to keep it all together.
Next time you have an interaction where he appears normal, picture the cuckoo bird flying around his head.
