Thanks for weighing in, Snodderly. My H is a strange one. Do you think this strangeness has anything to do with his sexual abuse when he was 12yo. I don't know how long it went on for, and he just wants to forget it, but I doubt he can do that if he doesn't deal with it. It was also at the time his mother left his father for another man, leaving the children behind. My H came home to find his mother gone. She did come to the house every night to tuck them in, but I think a 12yo would be very resentful. I think he blamed his father who always had affairs. Now his parents are failing in health, and I fear their passing is not too far off, especially his mom. How is he going to deal with that?
This is why I didn't just leave 8 years ago. I knew something was up. But, I can't sacrifice my life to his abuser anymore. My H is an adult now, and can get the help he needs if he so chooses.
But, is this his issue? Is this why he is the way he is? Or, am I just looking for things that aren't there? I just don't know.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
