We are not here because of one single root cause. More likely there is a symphony of contributive causes. Work upon what is in your control, you and your responses.
Use caution if you decide to broach this subject. I did not and broaching this subject in the manner I did placed another nail in the coffin our R was eventually buried in.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill