I'm not to piecing yet, but here's my 2.5 cents, since I'm re-learning how to communicate with my W...basically, when I say/do something that triggers something in her, we agreed to have her say, "H, the way you said/did that triggers something in me that is from the past and doesn't work anymore, let's find a way that works". This is agreed to be said respectfully, and it does go both ways, I say the same to her. She is in MLC, btw, and replay's cheating (hopefully done), so I do have my triggers as well. Maybe sit down and work out an agreement with him regarding this, for both of you, because I reckon you trigger things in him from time to time.
T^2
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