Ok, this is how messed up I am. Oldest daughter wants to apply to four colleges and one in is in the same city as OM that wife had an EA with. That is all I can see, not that the college may be a good one.
Well... obviously you do see it otherwise you wouldn't be pointing it out. That indicates an impulse control problem. Your issue isn't that you don't see it, your issue is controlling your emotions surrounding it. Different issue altogether.
You mention a lot that you are afraid. Can I ask what you are afraid of? Why don't you try writing them down. JP, I've been in this mess for 2 1/2 years. My H tried coming back a year ago. I finally relented 6 months ago. And I left him recently. You know what I realized? I've been letting fear drive the ship. I was afraid of being alone, afraid of being broke, afraid of having to move, afraid of finding another job, afraid of having to date... afraid of all kinds of things. I realized a few things:
1) It's ok to be afraid, move forward anyway 2) We tend to turn our fears into catastrophe 3) Our fears are based on very few facts 4) We are too often paralyzed by our fears 5) We become myopic in our vision when fear is driving us 6) Fear driving the ship ALWAYS makes a bad situation worse.
