I'm sorry to read about your MIL. A broken hip is serious when people get to her age. I hope that she's getting good care.
I think your h is dragging his feet about the divorce. I honestly don't think he wants one and he may very well be right about loving you in his own way. He's content w/his life the way it is and he's in absolutely no hurry to end the marriage. Maybe he feels that if he's divorced, if he meets someone or already has someone, they'll push him for a new marriage. He's just a very strange one.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
