Can you give me a link to your stich? For some reason I cant find in in your post.
Sadly, I don't have any threads...
My story is in blended in with my posts, and I realize that it is hard to grasp by just those.
I can summarize it for you, and if you have questions, please feel free to ask....
I got bombed in the fall of '07, and I couldn't post due to restrictions at my work. I could however, read, and follow a lot of posters through their journey.
By the time I was in a place where I could post, I had already had contact with some of the older posters here, from the days when emails were allowed to be posted. One in particular that I thank daily for his patience and understanding...
So by the time I started posting, there wasn't much to post about daily, so I reached back to try and help others that were going through this.
I lived two and a half years with a live-in MLC girl.
I gave myself two years to heal, and I used those two years, not as a timeline, but as a buffer, and I wouldn't let myself make any major decisions about my future until those two years were up.
I was willing to trade two years of my life, for a chance at a fifty year anniversary with her....
And that if there was a one in a million chance, that somebody had to be the "one" in that equation....why not me ??
I completely burned every ounce of fuel I had, to make sure that I had zero regrets down the road.
I tried to take each day as it came to me, and learned to deal with the things that NEEDED to be dealt with, and not force the ones that could wait. I learned about personal boundaries, and how to enforce, and why I should enforce. On why they should exist.
I also learned what love meant to me, and learned about what being a good Father meant to me. I tried to let my actions speak for me instead of my words.
I worked on myself, and identified my triggers for being controlling, and manipulative, on abandonment issues, and co-dependency issues. I learned how those played a part in the demise of the marriage. I learned how to forgive. Not for her, but for me, and what forgiveness looks like to me, because it is different for each of us.
I learned how to honor my vows, regardless the outcome of my marriage. And that I was not defined by my left ring finger.
My marriage did not make it, and I went through the legal process three years ago, and it was hard fought and drawn out. I tried every day to do what was right, regardless what my personal feelings were. I tried to act with Dignity, Honor, and Grace throughout....
I'm not sure if that answers your questions, if not, just ask....
