I have seen over time, people that come to this site, and post with with great passion about the things written in the self help books. They can quote the quotes, and know all of the key phrases by heart. And while that is a good thing, and very helpful.... It doesn't say much about how much life experience that a person has, that comes with "living" through those things.
Reminds me of 'bench scene' from Good Will Hunting
JP - sounds like you took a hard look at yourself which is good. Now take a minute and breathe. We sound similar that we can be very hard on ourselves. I doubt you're as bad as you think. Guessing you did the best you could at the time and you're now starting to see where you can improve. (BTW - my list and yours are pretty similar).
Hopefully you're already reading DR, if not start ASAP.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
