Well the best advice I got is that when the WAS moves back in you need to take a break from "working on the relationship" and just let things settle for a while. You're pressuring the WAS at a point where they are still testing the waters. The only exception is that you cannot tolerate disrespect at all -- such as continuing to contact the OM.
Hurt I think you need to get up, dust yourself off and let her go for a while. Put a date on your calendar 6 weeks from now and do nothing but focus on you between now and then.
Your W knows clearly what you want and expect, you've laid it out repeatedly. If you tell her you don't want that anymore you're just kidding yourself and it will come up again.
Hopefully in your piecing you showed her the best side of you and gave her something to miss. Now let her decide, go dark, no more overtures. If OM is still in the picture it's back to a waiting game and giving space
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
