I sent an email to him saying that I am moving on, I forgive him, and thanking him for introducing me to God. I have not heard a peep from him. It's like he has dropped off the edge of the world.
This actually happens a lot with MLCers, they will sometimes just completely disconnect from everything and everyone they previously held dear.
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Can you let me know if I am doing the correct things? * not going out of my way to help get the house ready(he sees the house as a debt around his neck, not that he is displacing the girls and I). * be pleasant & friendly. * he is suppose to come on weekends to fix up the house. I am going to go to work, take care of the girls and not change my routine.
Yeah, sounds like you're doing everything fine!
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He tried to send a couple of emails being funny and trying to make conversation. I ignored those emails. I only replied to emails concerning the girls and finances.
Considering your sitch I'd say "going dark" is appropriate, and what you describe above fits in with going dark.
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I called him. It was going okay, we were going to meet and talk about finances. Then I opened my big mouth and started telling him what I have been going through the last 4 months. I knew he wouldn't listen to half the stuff I was saying, but it was sure nice to get it off my chest. At the end, we decided to settle everything with the lawyers.
Oh well. It was a backslide, but sometimes we just can't fight those impulses Hopefully you're satisfied that you got it off your chest and won't feel the need to do that again.
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So how should I act when he is home?I want to be detached, continue with my routine, treat him like I would an acquaintance and when it gets uncomfortable, I will leave the room.
That is fine. I also suggest you look better than ever. Spruce up your wardrobe. Change your hairstyle. Wear perfume, or if you already do then change it. Show him what he's missing. Always have a PMA around him. Show him that you're moving on with your life with or without him.
Hopefully you're satisfied that you got it off your chest and won't feel the need to do that again.