First Timer

[Maritimer]

I couldn't help notice the similarities in our situation. My wife was postpartum after the birth of our first son 3 years ago and started taking anti depression meds. 6 months ago we discovered he was autistic. Even before that everything I did to help parent was not the correct way so eventually I stepped back with my help. Our other son just turned 1 year old the weekend and as of lately I have been helping out big time with the both of them.(one of my 180's). 3 months ago she told me she wants out of the marriage (WAW) and is not willing to even try to make it work.

I wonder how much of it has to do with stress, the autism diagnosis, her meds, postpartum, losing both parents in the last 3 years? It seems that walking away from the marriage will not help with the situation but will only create more problems.

They are great goals you have set! One thing I have learn t here is that it will take lots of time and patience - (the state of endurance under difficult circumstances).

I am only early into this game so the only advise I can give is to listen and implement the advice the vets give around here. Its tough but your best chance!