Did that snooping make you feel better about your sitch? Did it help you in some way? Do you think your D would appreciate you going through her phone? Do you think your W would appreciate it? I hope you see the answers are no, no, no and no. This is a total lose-lose situation, so stop it!!
It's my crack.
But since you did, might as well learn from it:
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W:If he brushes my arm one more time I'm going to punch him.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
What's this about? Are you trying to brush up against her as some covert way of working in some physical touch? If so then stop, it's clearly not working and in fact is giving you the opposite of the desired results.
Sitting next to her I rubbed my finger on her arm a couple of time, yes it was wrong. I get in a state of idk like I cant stand it, it is messed up. I need to get up and walk away and breathe and collect myself.
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W:Just so tired of it. hard 3 focus. He wanted me to go out Friday night since you both will be busy, think I will say no.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Good grief, you're asking her out on dates?? Have you read Sandi's DB tips? NO DATES!!!! If you had any doubt that it was the wrong thing to do, well you know now because your W is making it very clear that it's not what she wants. It's pressure, quit applying the pressure!!
Yes and ok.
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W:I am very interested in feeling that way again. OM made me feel that way wanted, touchable, irrsitable. ur dad can be the same way but it comes across to me as annoying.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
This is typical, this is why she needs time and lots of space. What she doesn't need is for you to hover and try and brush up against her and who-knows-what else. She doesn't want you right now in any way shape or form. Understand that and respect it. Until you can give her space she will never learn to miss you and crave that attention again.
This just bothered me so much and yes I am looking up at rule #1 and rereading "Did that snooping make you feel better about your sitch? Did it help you in some way? Do you think your D would appreciate you going through her phone? Do you think your W would appreciate it? I hope you see the answers are no, no, no and no. This is a total lose-lose situation, so stop it!!"
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I HATE that she talks like this to D about me!
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Then don't give her a reason to. She's responding to your behavior. Change your behavior. Follow DB principals.
Your right, your always right. I need you on my shoulder. Thank you AS
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
