I'm with the others, this wasn't a backslide. She isn't really committed to the R. To be committed to your R, there needs to be no contact. My H cut off OW, wanted to move forward with our R, but still be FB friends with her and secretive with his phone. NO SIR! Let's be real. You absolutely CAN NOT do a thing with your M if you are contacting the OP. I calmly stated that I needed transparency & the defriend or a separation. He moved out.
Honestly, what had you all discussed before she moved back in? I know for me, for my H to move back in it is already known that there will be NO contact with OW. Also, if he did move back in and I found out about contact, it's done. We are through. Or at a minimum, he needs to leave again. But, in my sitch it would be that we are done.
I know how hard this is!
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
