need some help today...feeling very resentful of H for being in the sitch that I am in...H not being here, we raising s by self and becoming very stressed the last two days...
It's hard, that's for sure. Get a sitter, take S to moms, go for a playdate. These things get me out of the house and feeling better. It's ok to ask for help!
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
need some help today...feeling very resentful of H for being in the sitch that I am in...H not being here, we raising s by self and becoming very stressed the last two days...
I see people backslide when they are feeling resentment for WAS. Be careful, get out of house. You need a break to recenter. Do you have any family member/friends who can help you out with the baby? Hang in there.
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
Planning on asking Mom for help tomorrow so I can have the day to self...
Also looking at Siberian Ginseng to help with stress/anxiety from day to day...still breastfeeding so taking anything else makes it hard...
Just hard to get out of the resentful mind today...but I guess that is not helping me either just making me go even darker...
Then I have sister and mother telling me to switch IC after only three weeks because they don't see a help...I told them both to lay off that and not to continue telling me that...it has been three weeks and she can't help me if I an not telling her the help I need...I know family is just concerned but the doubt of IC does not help me.
Thanks for being understanding just a hard couple of days...also stress that it will be a month on Sunday and still have no understanding of where I stand with H, been a while since we have had a talk about relationship and been a while since H has been around...
Now to try to exercise and relax while S had nap...please pray for along one!
yeah I do need to recenter...told my friend that I need to make sure to have no contact with H while in this mindframe...
We will see how S's nap goes if I have enough time I plan to exercise and possible get dressed and get out of this house, have no ambition to do so but need to!
Been hard s has been sick since Friday too an not sleeping well...been very needy lately!
I get it. Mine are 4, 2 and I'm 17 weeks pregnant. We had tag team double ear infections, ruptured ear drums, flu, then I had the flu. This stuff is hard enough healthy.
When I am feeling either really angry with H or super sad emotional, it is important to steer clear of them. When I haven't...bad things happen Take it from me. They are not going to make anything better, only worse. Much worse.
So, what are your 180's? What are your GAL activities for the week?
I don't care who you are, no one is going to be "better" in 3 weeks no matter how much therepy you have. The rug has been pulled out from under you.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
My 180's for the week are lunch out with to former co-workers tomorrow...was to bring S but thinking against it now...
Thinking of also dyeing my hair/highlight it, getting nails done...I never do that...Wednesday is IC, and Thursday is weightwatchers...thinking I should not have started that because to soon but needed something to keep me in check as I was dieting/exercising before BD...
Also on Saturday til Sunday first overnight away from S ever, asked H to stay with him which will be the first time since 4 days after BD, my sister is getting married and we are wedding dress shopping and I made plans to spend the night.
This is a big 180 as H had said I did not trust him with child and always told him what he could or could not feed him or do with him ect.
So here is the newest...H paid to reg. his new truck out of our mortgage account...$970...then said he was going to make it so the mortgage instead of come out on today would come out on the 15th...needless to say he did not do this...so when I looked today to go grocery shopping we were negative, called H to ask him nicely about it...H called back and informed he had screwed up and had not done it. H took all the money in savings and checking to pay for mortgage now no money until Friday available.
We would have had the money if he had not forgotten to do his timesheet the Monday after BD. So we are behind on a paycheck plus his truck reg this month.
So where in me I am pleased that he is having these stresses...as this was something I would have previously reminded him about and bugged him a couple of times to see if he had done it to which he would have thought I was nagging him and should trust that he would do it.
Now planning to say nothing on topic...
Also question about Holiday, those with kids how do you make that work?
findingself, your sitch is fairly new. I also don’t know where I stand with my H after 7 months of separation after BD. He’s been giving me some mixed signals too.
You seem to be doing all the right things. Keep it up. Don’t bring R talk, go out, take care of yourself. Patience is the key here.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
Take it from me. They are not going to make anything better, only worse. Much worse.