Quick synopsis- BD was almost 9 months ago, we tried MC and working on things at home but W kept saying she didn't "want to try" both in MC and outside of MC. W moved out just under 6 months ago, lives 5 minutes away. We have 50-50 custody of the kids. We've gotten along fine throughout, continue to maintain a friendly relationship. W signed us up for RetroV and we had some good communications through it, but we only did the first two followups. Unfortunately the followups were Saturday afternoons at the exact same time as S9's basketball games and D16's drill competitions. That killed it. I temporarily thought things were turning around due to RetroV, but since then things have settled back down to how it was before RetroV.
It's been over 2 weeks since I posted the last update. W and I have not had a M, R or D discussion since just after RetroV. At that time we came to an understanding that we were both free to date others. I had decided not to get W anything for Valentine's Day, but when I got home from work that day I was surprised to find she had bought me a bag of my favorite popcorn and left it at my house. So I made her peanut butter cookies and took them to her house that evening. She had the kids that day, so I told her it was a gift for all of them. W also left 2 boxes of Girl Scout Thin Mints (my favorites) at my house about a week after that.
I don't actually see W that much these days. Since D16 has a car now W no longer comes by my house to pick S9 and D16 up after school. I see W on the weekends and sometimes once during the week if we have to swap something for the kids (homework or whatever) but that's about it. We usually take the kids out for lunch or dinner together on the weekends. It's about 50-50 as far as me inviting W or her inviting me, but I always get to pay, LOL! Usually when we part we share a hug and a kiss (smack on the lips). This is something that changed after RetroV, before that we hadn't hugged or kissed in months.
D16 was in a major drill competition this past weekend, unfortunately there was some overlap with S9's last basketball game. So W went to D16's competition all day. I went to D16's competition for the morning performances and then drove home to take S9 to his game that afternoon. S9 played great and the team won, so it was fun that they ended on a high note D16's team totally blew it out, they won 1st place for each of their 4 routines and also won grand champions for the entire event. So awesome!! I hated that I wasn't there for the awards, but it was an hour drive and even if I left right after S9's game I would have missed the whole thing.
W and I went out to brunch between D16's morning performances. I didn't even realize until later that it's the first time we've had a meal together without the kids since... gosh, I think our anniversary 5 months ago. It was pleasant, all talk was light and fluffy.
GAL- unfortunately my support buddy who also has a WAW is working on a job out of town, so we haven't been able to hang out lately. Weather has been too darned cold to ride the motorcycles much, I basically have been going for short hops to keep the batteries charged. Still lifting weights regularly. Gardening has been spotty because of the cold/ windy weather too. D18 has been coming in nearly every weekend from college, so we've been getting out going to movies and eating out quite a bit.
I've been tapering off the anti-depressants for months and finally stepped off of them completely last week. I've had some headaches, but thankfully no crazy emotional reactions. My main desire for wanting to get off of them was for health reasons, after starting them my blood pressure (which has always been normal) shot up and my resting heart rate jumped from 60 to over 80. I told my PCP, but she swore it couldn't be the A/D's but must have been the stress and depression. Yet now that I've stopped taking them my heart rate and BP are back down to normal. I feel fine, no signs of depression or anxiety. It'll probably be a couple more weeks before I can know that I'm completely out of the woods regarding "SSRI discontinuation syndrome", but so far so good!
Updates will likely be infrequent as there's just not that much going on in my sitch, my life has reached "new normal" status and there's just not a lot of news to report
D16's team totally blew it out, they won 1st place for each of their 4 routines and also won grand champions for the entire event. So awesome!! I hated that I wasn't there for the awards, but it was an hour drive and even if I left right after S9's game I would have missed the whole thing.
