So, MIL told me that W thinks that MIL only wants her to work out her M with me because of financial reasons.

Now, W seems to be keeping track of all her expenditures with an app on her phone. She says she wants to track her expenses for one month (this is the first time in OUR lives she has expressed interest in knowing how much our lives cost us).

This experiment is to last the whole month. After this, she will be sorely disappointed to see that her life costs way more than her and OM can pay for with the BS jobs that they qualify for.

Is it OK to have a wife want to work on the marriage based on finances? I mean a lot of advice here has been to cut her off from money and let her feel how it is without the money you give her. So I guess that is the same thing, right? I mean, we always say we want them back from a place of love, but is financial motivation an admirable reason? Can it be built on, and a love grown on that basis?

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017