I didn't invite him when he asked where we were at the game because I thought I wasn't supposed to add pressure to him. Was trying to give distance. Is that not right?
Michele goes into this a bit in DR. Giving time and space doesn't mean you can't ever invite your spouse to anything. It does mean that you shouldn't pressure them for "dates", but it's fine to invite them along to family stuff. The key is that you are going WITH OR WITHOUT them. So it should be phrased something like this "Hey H, I'm taking the kids to the zoo this weekend, you're welcome to join us if you wish". There is no pressure attached to an invitation like this, because it's clear that you and the kids are going whether he goes or not. If he says he can't, then just respond back with something like "no problem" and then (this is key)- GO ANYWAY.
