Told W Friday night that I was not trying to hurt her feelings regarding the sushi dinner, but simply wanted to spend some time with the kids. This spiraled into a R discussion where she simply indicated she didn't feel any different. She said, "I'm just not getting over it" referring to her resentment of me not being a better H for the majority of our M. I said, "that's a choice you have," and she said, "ok, I'm choosing to not get over it."
Cheeseless tunnel buddy...
Those are her feelings, and have consistently been for some time now.
They will be, until they aren't anymore.
You haven't shown her anything different for quite some time, why would her feelings have changed ???
She's never lost you....
Originally Posted By: Breakdown
At one point she accused me of dating since I have been going out a few nights a week and not telling her where I've gone. Then she flips it and says she knows I will do anything to keep this M together. She said she assumed once the house sold we would go our separate ways, but half the time she's talking about what we should buy next, so more mixed messages.
Sounds like projection behavior to me.
Mixed messages are only around, until you make a plan, and move forward with it....
Originally Posted By: Breakdown
With regards to a hard line on the OM, it doesn't seem necessary. She doesn't have any interest in staying together so it's really a moot point. Regarding D, I will hire my attorney this week and bang out the rest of the paperwork. We'll have to discuss how finances will work for the period between D and house sale, but otherwise I think it's pretty straight forward.
Yea, well assuming that the boundary is to punish her, then it is moot.
In regards to YOU doing it for you, then no, it is not a moot point.
Hard line....
As long as there are other men in your life, I will not be...
It certainly keeps you from sitting at home wondering now doesn't it ???
Keeps YOUR head from spinning around...
Originally Posted By: Breakdown
I decided to go see my Dad and his W yesterday....went to a winery (neither of them had been). It was great fun. W texted a few times and then called me...felt like she was checking up on me.
WHY the F did you answer ???
Why are you still tied to her leash ????
Simple response ????
"Are the kids okay? "
"Why yes Breakdown, they are"
"Okay, thanks"
Originally Posted By: Breakdown
On the drive home this morning I was thinking....my W really is my best friend. So for now, that is how I will treat her. She is an amazing woman, a great mom, and I couldn't have been luckier to have her in my life. She's taught me so much, and I feel sad that she won't forgive me, but I think it's time to move forward.
Blah, Blah, Blah Bullschidt....
Look, I understand what you are saying here.
I ALSO understand that you can treat her that way, without placing expectations on any of it. Treat her that way regardless the outcome of this.
Treat her that way because that is how you want to treat everyone...
You said that you were moving in a new direction lately, and from what I see....
