Then she said that she would never use our D against me, I said okay, i believe you. She also said that she had a lot of issues to work thru and possibly in a year or so we could get back together if I was still around and was willing. WHAM!!! right between the eyes. I said that I would be here, that I was going no where. If she ever needed to talk that I would be available. I also said that I was working on me and trying to change who I was for the better.
That's a nice baby step, congrats, but be warned that she may say the complete opposite tomorrow, next week or next month. So try not to get too excited about it, just celebrate it internally and continue with your DB'ing. Also regarding the above in bold, you don't want to tell her you're just sitting around waiting for her, because she will never have any incentive to come back. A better response might have been "well a year is a long time, I'm going to continue to work on myself and we'll just see where things go." In a response like this you're not committing to waiting around and you're also not saying you're not going to, you're just leaving some question in the air as to your intentions. What you want her to wonder is if she might lose you if she waits around too long.
