The Waiting is the Hardest Part

[ForeverYoung]

rky: It sounds like your wife is maybe yearning to be a rebel! Yes, the music thing is fun to look at, but we can't take it too seriously. I will update more regarding W's favorite songs at a later date. Oh, and the wine W and single GF shared last night? "Hot to Trot"! Yikes!

FY, you are a great person and motivate me to keep going. Really awesome with the TKD class you are putting together. Just considering your W you wonder if she sees what a true, loving commitment you are making?

Thanks for the kind words. It is very nice to know I have helped others, like others here have, and continue to help me. That's what makes DB the best board for MLC standers like us, in my opinion. We're all in the same sinking ship with a puny little patience shovel for a paddle!

My youngest sister (wife's best friend)

You mentioned this in another post. This must be an interesting dynamic. I assume your sister is aware of the sitch? Are you able to talk to your sister about it or does her friendship with W preclude you from that? I believe you have mentioned several times that your parents are not aware and that W seems all normal when you visit them? Are you able to talk to brother about sitch (believe you've menioned that in another post)?

Stay strong FY. I'm cheering for you.

Regarding sis and W being close, yes it is interesting. Especially since sis left her H about 7-8 months ago and W is "coaching" her to be strong and make it on her own. W sometimes tells me of their conversations, so I know this is the case.

While we get along great, I'm not nearly as close to my sis as W is.

Does sis know about W's issues? I don't know. If she does she'd be a great poker player, because she's never let on when we were together, even when it's been just me and her. One time, when W was off on one of her solo vacations, sis and I went out for a bike ride and lunch, and talked for several hours. Not a word about our sitch, and only a little about hers.

My guess is she at least knows W is unhappy, but not much more. Wife never liked others to know her/our personal business, and has told me that she figures the family would see her as the "bad guy" for leaving wonderful me. (ok, I added the wonderful part) So that's why she hasn't let the cat out of the bag.

As far as I can tell, no one in either of our families know the extent of her discontent. I believe this has helped us greatly to make it this far without pressure from others making things worse.