Be civilized with STBX

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Out of curiosity, is there a thread about two brothers going through MLC together?

Background: H father was an alcoholic & prescription drug user. H is the youngest. His older siblings say he was the scapegoat for the dad. Alcoholism has been in the family for generations.

BIL broke his neck in 2009. In April 2011, he wanted to date other people and wanted SIL to date others too. SIL refused and divorce proceeding started. BIL "moved" into his office. BIL started dating younger woman. This was about the same time H started acting funny. H started to lie for his brother.

End of 2010, I got really ill. I ended up in the ER twice in December. H thought I was going to die that night. At the same time oldest D was stranded in New York during a blizzard. She called H in a panic, crying and asking for help. I lost my hair, H got demoted for his PA behavior, financial stress made a perfect storm for MLC.

Currently, both brothers are living in their childhood home. H is dating 20-something OW in China, living the single life. BIL is dating a 24 year old, "actress", tattooed, mother of a 9 year old. BIL just took GF to Costa Rica so GF can get a boob job. BIL funded this whole adventure. This should "enhance" her porn acting career.

H is miserable, doesn't want to live with brother yet attached & influenced by his brother. H still thinks I am to blame for all of this.

Told husband that my daughters are not allowed near the playboy house. He agrees, seen his brother do many disgusting things. I think H is guilty of participation too.

I am interested if any on this website has experienced this? What was the outcome?