So I would let it go if you still want to DB. You don't know for sure where they are. If they tell you they went there you can express your feelings but I doubt you can stop it.

Our minds are our worst enemies.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss