Less lonely, not scared..low on patience

[JBolt]

Thanks AJM and T, the two of you and all the other folks who have replied to my posts have really helped me come to terms with what is happening to W and how I need to take care of myself first. I don't think I could have done that without all of you.

I don't want this obviously. At the same time, I think she believes this is absolutely what she needs right now. I think she's one of those MLCers who want to totally cut all links to the past, particularly those that do not support her current feelings. She has convinced herself that I am hanging on and hurting, though I have been very good about not showing it.

Anyway, here is my thinking on how to proceed. I will agree to the divorce. I will contact a mediator and get an appointment as soon as possible. A few days before hand, I will send W my proposals for how to settle spousal support, child support, division of our property, assets (what little there is), and debts. Between W and I, I'm fairly confident that I am the only one of us to have read up on divorce proceedings in my state, family law guidelines on how to calculate SS and CS, actually read and filled out the various divorce documents, etc. It's really kind of odd, I feel like I'm going to have to educate her in all this.

I'll wait to hear the rest of what AJM and anyone else has to say before I respond to her, but I think I should do so soon.

J.